Administration again defends DOMA in court papers
October 31, 2009
As it did earlier this year in a separate case filed in California, the Obama administration filed a brief in federal court that today defends the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), while also asserting that the act is discriminatory and should be repealed by Congress.
Today?s legal defense of DOMA responds to a lawsuit filed by Massachusetts which claims that the 16,000 same-sex couples who have married since the state allowed it in 2004 are being unfairly denied federal benefits given to heterosexual couples, AP reports.
The brief filed today repeats some of the wording used when the Department of Justice defended DOMA in August against a lawsuit filed by an individual there. It says DoD believes that it must defend laws like DOMA if ?reasonable arguments can be made in support of their constitutionality.?
NBC?s Pete Williams summarizes today?s filing:
DOMA doesn?t regulate marriage, the government says, because states remain free to decide for themselves whether a same-sex couple can marry and how to spend state money on programs for married couples. But Congress had a logical reason for restricting federal benefits to marriages between men and women.
?Congress may subsequently decide to extend federal benefits to same-sex marriages, and this Administration believes that Congress should do so. But its decision not to do so at this point is not irrational or unconstitutional,? today?s filing argues.
Source: Government’s defense of DOMA – First Read – msnbc.com
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Online Gay Dating, Relationship and Lifestyle
October 30, 2009
Out Personals
Out Personals, Queer – these words characterize gay lifestyle, which till today is not an accepted mode of life to a large populace on this planet. Even in modern, fast-paced societies where liberal attitudes and sexual liberation are a norm, gay men are looked down upon. Gay activity is sneered or frowned upon and they are looked down as queers or out personals the naming to is self explanatory.
Social Life
Country politics and social caretakers indulge in raging debates on gay lifestyles and gay rights in discussion forums, parliament, and conventions. There is a marked hesitancy in accepting gays in government services and other public enterprises, though some nations have accorded acceptance but more has to be done. In many instance persons discovered as following gay lifestyle have been debarred from office jobs and social circles.
The crux is that homosexuality is in practice since ages and it is still as popular, without any signs of receding or vanishing from the face of earth. Then why not accept it since it does not impinge on anyone’s privacy or way of life. Nor is it detrimental to the society since gay dating lifestyle is a much-closeted practice.
I am not advocating gay life as a gay-which I am not-but what I want to stress is that everyone has a right to express his or her sexuality and practice as long as it does not hurt others.
Gay Lifestyle and Relationship
The reason behind ridicule or sneer of gay lifestyle is that it is a biological aberrance as sex is for procreation and a man-to-man sex does not give birth to new being. But then, anal sex practice is not limited to gay couples only, it is much practiced by straight couples too, so what is funny. Any way gay love and romance is a very strong force that binds the gay couple together sometimes in permanent relationship.
Sex is for procreation but it is for pleasure too, and any which way you can. Therefore, “Out” sex practice is not restricted to guys only but rather practiced by straight lifestyle followers in some way or the other. So live and let live.
Marketing yourself in the Gay Dating Scene
October 30, 2009
The success in the dating scene especially as a gay person highly depends on the image you project to the public. Everything we do in life is the way it is because of our attitude. If you have positive attitude towards homosexuality, it will be reflected through how you talk and how you carry yourself around. Walk with confidence and and do not suggest insecurity. In the gay dating scene, you will realize that you tend to attract the people who are pleased by the signals you are sending. If you are not comfortable with the kind of guys who are attracted to you, mind to change your attitude. If you are the scaring type, try smiling a bit and if you give out signals of arrogance try loosening up a little.
Dating is all about what people think about you and if they find you attractive. Many people are desperate of changing their dating lifestyles. To succeed in this, i advice that you go through a session of self-reflection and adjust your image. This can take you along way in the gay dating scene. You can rarely find your Mr. Right if you have not fine tuned your search. Have a vision of what you want. Physical qualities are important but just do not stop there, look further into the demeanor or the personality of your perfect partner. Do not be so rigid in your choice adjust while you can. Do not go looking for pasta sauce in the frozen food sector. By this i mean you go where you can find what you want.
If you are targeting a guy from a certain class go to where they hang out. The world is an integrated place and people hang around with those who share their interests or background. If you are eyeing a body builder, spend your free time at the gym. Do not wait for the shining tiffany to find you. You might be disappointed. If you only wait to be approached, you might fail in the gay dating scene. Go an extra mile and get out of your comfort zone and approach a handsome man. If you are approaching a guy it is hard to tell whether they are gay or not. To avoid being slapped on the face, do not give out too much too soon. The details should unfold naturally after breaking the ice.
7 Tips To Get Responses On Any Gay Dating Site
October 30, 2009
I realised that I needed to look at my profile like another member would and do some self-evaluation. Here are 7 quick things you must consider when you are editing your personal ad:
1. Am I presenting myself as a good match in the LONG TERM, or does it sound like I’m just looking for a quick fling? You need to think about what you’re looking for – if its just physical action you want say that, if you’re looking for something more don’t be shy to say that.
2. Is my profile just like everyone else’s? If so you’re not going to get many responses. Try to have the attitude of ‘I don’t care what other people think, I’m going to be real’ and make that apparent on your
3. Be specific! Don’t just say ‘I like to go out and on other nights stay in and watch a movie’. I’ve got news for you, so does everyone else! Instead tell them your details – write in your profile WHERE you like to go out (chances are other singles will know the same spots in your area) and what kind of movies you like.
4. When making any kind of contact whether its sending a message to another user or responding to one, make sure you reference what is in their profile.
5. Don’t be shy about adding a member to your ‘favorites’ list. Yeah, yeah you heard it makes you look desperate. Forget that! It lets someone know you’re interested and that’s the point.
6. HOW ABOUT YOUR PICTURES? This is by far the most important element of any dating profile. Never put up a profile without a pic. This is the most deadly of sins. In fact, my recommendation is to make sure you upload as many pictures as you can, showing as many different emotions as possible. The reason is because this is how you will let your potential match who you really are and let’s face it, looks matter. That doesn’t mean you need to be Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, it means you need to show people what you look like because I guarantee you, there is someone out there that will think you’re attractive. So be honest and don’t set false expectations.
So in conclusion, be yourself, be specific, don’t worry so much about what other people might think of you – be honest, make sure the gay dating site your on has the right communication tools that allow you to make instant contact and last but definitely not least, let your pictures speak a thousand words!
If you follow these 6 tips, I guarantee you will get responses…and you might even find love:)
Five Ways To Fight ‘Passion Draught’ In Gay Dating
October 30, 2009
The usual pattern gay dating starts in gay nightclubs, where you hook up with a hottie. Everything about him is just perfect, you both love same things, you have been to same places, and you feel you are ‘made for each other’. You make a date and decide to meet in the same gay nightclub on next weekend. The gay nightclub that you visit sort of becomes your sacred meeting spot then you go a step further and visit other places that you like. As time progresses, whenever you both are free, you both meet up and share a special bond, which at that time feels will last forever.
However, change is the rule of universe and the bond that united you once, dissolves gradually. If you are caught in a situation like this, read on. The following five tips might help you to get rid of boredom in your relationship:
· Communicate, communicate, and communicate. This is the key to success in all relationships
· Ask your boyfriend to respect your privacy and space and then visit gay nightclubs separately. Meet new people and make new friends
· If you two do not meet each other for a month but continue to talk on phone during this period, the next scheduled visit may get the sparks alive
· Understand, this is a transitional phase that comes in all relationships, gay or otherwis· If you are having commitment phobia and do not like permanency in life in fear of stagnancy and boredom, remember you can be adventurous without switching partners. The best way to get rid of boredom is travelling to new places, doing something new, trying something that you both do not do usually
Gay dating and relationships are no different from heterosexual relationship. Do not think that you will not encounter the same set of problems that the world around you faces.
Gay night clubs and gay dating hotspots
You might like to go to many new travelling destinations and gay nightclubs. Internet is the source to get more information about new places to rekindle your lost love.
If you want to add fun and wish to do something new, you can visit places such as The Backstreet. This venue is known for its sexy leather and rubber fetish visitors. Another hotspot in London is Black Cap, a pub that features drag cabaret by night.
There are many more bars, bubs, and gay nightclubs that might catch you fancy. Information is available on the net, all you need to do is open your eyes, mind, and soul!



